Team Dynamics and the Beast Named ‘Good Intentions’

I’m an optimist. I often say that “Most people don’t get up in the morning with the express purpose of trying to ruin your day.” And I believe that it’s true. So how does it happen that so many times is is easy to feel like that is exactly what is happening – and it’s […]

A killer competency of leadership – listening

Recently I read a post tied to a video called “I am a Boxer”. It was particularly poignant because over the holiday weekend I had been told by two men what a feminist was. Both of these men were over a decade older than I am. And from where I am sitting I believe that […]

Boundaries, discretion and lies

Perhaps one of the most important areas of leadership is trust – the trust that we can and will be truthful. Aligned with that is the trust that you will not inflict harm.   Part of that trust is the trust that you will take care to avoid inflicting harm accidentally – either to your […]

Self-control, forgiving, and truly assessing your leadership value

Are you always proud of the way that you’ve handled situations?  I confess, I’m not. And, as we go into a new year, it seemed appropriate to reflect on that simple confession. Every morning I awake with a goal of being a better person than I was.  And every day I disappoint myself a little. […]

Lessons learned about walking my talk

There we were, a bunch of speakers in one room, starting a new program to teach us about the business of the speaking business. And they announce that we will work in teams and will need a team leader.  Before I can stop myself I mutter “Not me – I don’t think I have the […]

Walking the Talk

There will be times, for some of us at least, when our need to be financially secure will vie for priority with our desire/need to be family/heart-secure. One of those times may well be coming up for me. It got me to thinking. If the heart of leadership can be seen in the consistency between […]

Taking responsibility – being accountable

Recently I saw an editorial by Thomas Friedman reminding people that parents have a role in the raising of children – not just teachers. This was a sad addition to a  the long string of moments that caused me to ask: when do we learn to take accountability? What experiences teach you responsibility? These questions […]